Therapy for Women

Therapy for Women

The intricate process of womanhood is undeniably beautiful and complicated and what it means to be a woman is different for, well, each woman. What does it mean to you to be a woman? How would you describe what it’s like to be a woman? What does it even mean to you to be a woman?

I’ve Lost My Mind

I’ve Lost My Mind

I’ve lost my mind…at least it seems. A woman standing behind me points out my unzipped back pack; ‘Ma’am, you need some help closing that up. You might not want to lose anything in there.’ I politely complied. Moment later, the flight was cancelled. My friend goes into immediate action mode and seems to know exactly what options there are and begins to make decisions about how we can progress. In my freeze response – I don’t. I do, however, notice my feelings of lostness. My feelings of not knowing what to do and looking to others for direction. In that moment, the pattern, the role, the identity, the Me I know myself to be, had revealed herself to remain very present throughout the retreat. It was my ‘Passionately Held Bad Fit’ as it is referred to among us therapists.

Body Flow

Body Flow

My therapeutic approach is Somatic, I believe that for every thought and feeling there is a physical response in the body. Rather than just talking about your issues, you will experience a whole body therapeutic experience. You will learn to identify and connect with your sensations, learn to listen and rebuild trust with your body, experience healing from within and learn to release stress from your body.

Awakening the Divine Feminine

Awakening the Divine Feminine

She walks into the room and sits on my couch. As she opens up, she shares with me, what has become a familiar story in my work. She, like so many women, anxious in her complete exhaustion and has lost her-Self. As she shares of the pressure she feels to push herself ever harder in order to succeed, I sit and feel with her the stuck-ness she describes.

Returning to My Senses

Returning to My Senses

Many of you have experienced this dramatic change in myself upfront and personal and for many of you it has been a more distant looking in awareness. I want you to know I see you too. As I have matured and grown as a person and therapist, I have intimately experienced the change and difference that can happen in our healing and recovery when we involve ALL aspects of our being.

The Seasons of Recovery

The Seasons of Recovery

The Seasons of Recovery As with Life, we experience the seasons of recovery It's officially the beginning of summer, Memorial Day weekend.  It's a hot day.  A good day to cool off in the water.  I sit on the edge of our pool and stare into my reflection.  The water is...

2017: A Year in Review-The Metaphor of the Storm

2017: A Year in Review-The Metaphor of the Storm

“Reflections while driving in The Golden Sparrow” As the norm, I am driving in the Golden Sparrow and the song on my playlist begins to play “Healing Begins” by Tenth Avenue North.  I like all kinds of music, especially singer songwriters.  As I listen, I...

For a new beginning by John O’Donohue

For a new beginning by John O’Donohue

For A New Beginning In out-of-the-way places of the heart, Where your thoughts never think to wander, This beginning has been quietly forming, Waiting until you were ready to emerge. For a long time it has watched your desire, Feeling the emptiness growing...

The Wisdom That Comes From Our Emptiness

The Wisdom That Comes From Our Emptiness

The wisdom of emptiness may seem strange or even alarming to you to read especially if you struggle with an eating disorder or an addiction because it is emptiness that we feel and want to avoid that compels us to use these behaviors in the first place. This is not new information within the recovery world, and I want to be careful to avoid triggering the eating disorder or addiction voice by saying these words but there is wisdom in emptiness.

You Are Loved and You Belong

You Are Loved and You Belong

“When it feels like something's missing If it hurts but you can't find healing” I went to church today. I have not attended a church service in a very long time and I was nervous.  As I approached the front door a woman introduced herself to me and handed me a...

How Saying Good Bye Leads to Authenticity

How Saying Good Bye Leads to Authenticity

“Who am I really and how do I trust her to guide me through life?” As you might imagine, the topic of authenticity gets brought up and mulled over quite a lot in my work and folks express a lot of confusion and frustration around it. Indeed, it can be...

Change as Reunion to The Self

Change as Reunion to The Self

Change will come and change is HERE…. So true are those words.  Change always comes and change is here.  What is change but an opportunity to experience both our selves and the world around us in new ways?  Change isn’t easy because the flexibility it requires of us...

Refugee

Refugee

“You don’t have to live like a refugee” were words spoken to me by my first therapist–so very long ago during my first eating disorder treatment and they have stayed with me for over 15 years. What does it mean to be a refugee? Well, a refugee is a person who has been forced to leave their country in order to escape war, persecution, or natural disaster. In essence, it is someone without a home…

You have to do it for yourself.

You have to do it for yourself.

“I can’t! I can’t do it!” I cry out as I reactively cover my ‘ugly cry’ face with my hands. I’m in treatment, again and I’m sitting across my primary therapist and dietician at dinner. Trying to eat restaurant night with two eating disorder professionals is hard enough, but when they were also confronting me, or rather, my negative beliefs about myself is beyond anxiety. Seemingly to read my mind…”

Pictures of You

Pictures of You

‘You’re never ready,’ she said, “You’re never ready. Whether you had a good relationship or a complicated one, you’re never ready to lose your mother.” Over the last year several of my friends and colleagues have experienced their mothers passing. I suppose it’s that strange time of life that seems to have just suddenly made its way into mine.

Already Gone

Already Gone

I have been an Eagles fan since I was a kid and have always loved this song. The simple and engaging beat made it easy for me to learn the lyrics and even as a girl I was drawn to singer songwriters. Although I loved simple pop songs, it was the stories within a song that I drew me in the most.

Living Out Our Much-Ness: The Golden Sparrow, Synchronicity and Channeling Janis

Living Out Our Much-Ness: The Golden Sparrow, Synchronicity and Channeling Janis

The World Gains Nothing from Your Eating Disorder. Many times I have been told that the world gains nothing from my eating disorder. But when I am active in my eating disorder, I don’t think for myself as the eating disorder does all my thinking for me and the crazy thing about eating disorders is that they really don’t care what the world needs.

Welcome to the Golden Sparrow Flies

Welcome to the Golden Sparrow Flies

Welcome to my blog, The Golden Sparrow Flies. The Golden Sparrow is the name of my car, a 2016 Gold Beetle Dune. And it is when I am driving in my car, with LOUD music playing that I have my deepest thoughts, most significant connections regarding the pain from my past, my recovery an eating disorder and healing occurring in my life.