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APPROACHES TO THERAPY
People often come to me sensing there is more to life than what they are experiencing. They have a sense there is more to know, understand and feel about their life than a mere existence filled with problems to overcome–they come desiring fulfillment. Viewing life as a personal journey to be explored is the driving force that moves my clients to a more meaningful existence. I believe this is because striving to find meaning in one’s life primary to feeling life is worthwhile. As your companion, I will help guide you as you create and discover your personal, unique and valuable meaning from their unique lives. I use this passionate belief as the foundation to my work as I help my clients overcome their struggles. Finally, it is my hope that my clients learn to notice, understand and appreciate the intimate connections—the synchronicities in their lives as this is the evidence that their lives matter and being able to live from this belief and foundation helps foster a sense of personal peace and contributes to overall emotional healing, personal growth and empowerment.
When you feel stuck – Getting past your past
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing can be a powerful way of working through past wounds, traumas and those emotional stuck places within. EMDR is a more direct road at getting unprocessed and stuck wounds to move through the system. It literally changes the way that the memory is stored and integrated in the brain and body. Although it is generally used for traumatic events it has also been shown to have great results with anxiety, phobias, depression, deep inner wounding from emotional abuse and neglect, as well as the ‘small traumas’ we experience through the tough times of life. No one knows how any form of psychotherapy works neurobiologically or in the brain. However, we do know that when a person is very upset, their brain cannot process information as it does ordinarily. One moment becomes “frozen in time,” and remembering a trauma may feel as bad as going through it the first time because the images, sounds, smells, and feelings haven’t changed. Such memories have a lasting negative effect that interferes with the way a person sees the world and the way they relate to other people. EMDR seems to have a direct effect on the way that the brain processes information. Normal information processing is resumed, so following a successful EMDR session, a person no longer relives the images, sounds, and feelings when the event is brought to mind. You still remember what happened, but it is less upsetting. Many types of therapy have similar goals. However, EMDR appears to be similar to what occurs naturally during dreaming or REM (rapid eye movement) sleep. Therefore, EMDR can be thought of as a physiologically based therapy that helps a person see disturbing material in a new and less distressing way.
Fear in the Presence of the Unknown
Although anxiety is a normal part of living, it is often misunderstood by our production oriented culture. And, unfortunately, that misunderstanding can lead to one of the most powerful aspects of anxiety, that is, its ability to convince you that you are alone in your suffering. Addressing your anxiety therapeutically allows you to find more useful ways to manage your problems and create effective solutions. Therapy helps us learn to be more aware of how our unconscious thoughts are often driving our anxiety, recognize the power of our choices and attend to our emotional selves with an attitude of nonjudgmental curiosity and acceptance rather than with resistance and fear. However we don’t like it, anxiety doesn’t have an on/off switch; rather, the power lies in recognizing it is our choices that add up to an increased sense of calm. I teach meditation, mindful breathing, guided imagery, and body scans to induce feelings of relaxation. Likened to how a strong core helps support our bodies, awareness is the core foundation of a healthy emotional self.
Joy as the Remedy for A Sad Soul
Depression is a helpless feeling of being drained and depleted. A powerful image is the HOLE. You seem to be sinking into a bottomless blackness. If you choose to desensitize yourself you will not face the deepest truth of your being. The quicksand into which you sink constrains you from all sides, and offers no support from below. But there is hope. There are creative and constructive ways to accept and acknowledge your depressed spirit. Therapy is often the first form of treatment for depression. It helps you understand the behaviors, emotions, and ideas, and life problems that are contributing to your feeling depressed and identify which aspects of those problems you may be able to solve or improve. Therapy helps you structure new ways of thinking so that the negative attributes and attitudes you have about your self.
Eating Disorders and Body Acceptance:
It’s not about the food, it’s about YOU
As a therapist in recovery from an eating disorder, I have personally experienced the powerful impact my relationship with my therapist has been on my recovery. The kindness, patience, genuine interest, constant and continuous encouragement and patience was necessary as I learned to have a new relationship with food and my body. Eating disorders are painfully destructive attempts to cope with those troubled relationships in life, be it with oneself or with others, and they are empty in their promise to guarantee one control over their life. They are damaging and can destroy an entire life. Eating Disorders are relentless and unforgiving to the person who suffers. Eating Disorders are a result misguided coping strategies to deal with life’s challenges and disappointments. If you find yourself preoccupied with food or with your body’s appearance, therapy can help address the complex underlying psychological, interpersonal, genetic, social and spiritual issues that lead to disordered eating and obsession with controlling one’s body.
The best part of your story is when it changes
Difficult life transitions is one of the most common reasons people work with me. Life transitions can be difficult because they often require us to surrender old paths that no longer lead us to fulfillment. They present an opportunity to grow in our relationships with ourselves, with others and the world. Self-reflection, discovering and creating a new more effective and satisfying path is the goal of moving through a transition. My role is to help you better understand and respond to your needs during this time, to thrive beyond the confusion, pain and challenging growth while healing the grief that accompanies change, identify the choices and encourage you to take action on the decisions that will create a new life that continues to nourish and nurture you.
Synchronicity and the Law of Connection
There is a natural search for meaning that is within us all. Many of my clients recognize the value of having a spiritual component to their life but don’t know how to create it or they may be struggling with conflicting beliefs many times they have been damaged and confused by messages or traditions that do not fit them. One avenue of helping my clients connect and utilize their spirituality is to learn to identify synchronicity. That is, listening to the voice of our soul. Uncovering and healing our personal beliefs is the aim of spiritual exploration. Often, our attempts to relieve our troubles only seem to further frustrate us as we find they only bring about momentary and fleeting relief, but really, it’s about connecting first at a deeper level that it’s the spiritual aspect that permeates the whole process. No matter what it looks like for each of us we are still always coming back to the joining with the spirit, the True Self, joining the truth of what and who we are.
Synchronicity is the chances, the happenstances and the coincidences that guide our opportunities if we believe in connections. It is the connections which bind together to make things change. Alone, it’s tough to embrace your intuition and the mystery of the unknown and it’s amazing how many synchronicities come your way once you start following your passion in life.
Inner Child Healing:
Listening to the wisdom of your inner child
We were all once children and still have that child dwelling within us. But, most adults are quite unaware of this. And, this lack of conscious relatedness to our inner child is precisely where so many behavioral, emotional and relationship difficulties stem from. We may even, in futile desperation, attempt to force others into fulfilling these infantile needs for us. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and parenting our own inner child. For many adults, the inner child has been denied, neglected, abandoned or rejected. We’ve been taught that our innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness are ‘child-ish’ and ridiculed. But, more seriously, our inner child feels hurt by this as it holds our accumulated hurts, traumas, fears and angers. And, when left unhealed and unknown, it is not an adult self that directs our life, but rather, the unconscious, emotionally wounded inner child. But, the good news is that we can learn to travel and explore our adult lives while holding the hand of our inner child. Traveling together allows us to accept the painful past and take responsibility for the care of our inner child’s needs. By learning to travel with our inner child, a reconciliation between our inner child and mature adult can be reached. A new relationship can be created in which the sometimes conflicting needs of both the adult self and inner child can be creatively fulfilled.
Wherever you are—You don’t have to be alone.
I offer webcam psychotherapy and counseling. Although not appropriate for everyone, virtual therapy has been shown effective for many people. Virtual therapy can be a valuable alternative to traditional face to face meetings.
Therapy delivered over the internet may open access to those who might be reluctant to go to an office or to those who might be physically or psychologically unable to.
Don’t miss Another Session
Although virtual therapy doesn’t replace face to face therapy; rather, it is used as an addition to traditional meetings as it fosters consistency and cohesion within your therapy. With the added portability and flexibility, you can conveniently join your on session and eliminate the travel time that traditional therapies require. Virtual therapy is secure and easy to use web-based communication application to connect you in a way that maintains the highest standards for maintaining privacy.
Sometimes, it is not always practical or possible to meet in person for face to face counseling. Although convenience is often cited as one of the greatest benefits there are potential downsides. For example, one important disadvantage of online therapy is that it can be hard to read each other’s cues that are not visible, like body language. And, therefore, for certain issues, it may be more beneficial for these people to continue with in person therapy. Therefore, before deciding on participating in virtual therapy, consider the important issues of personal needs as well as the confidentiality, ethical and legal ramifications. For example, at this time no insurance company will cover services over video-conferencing.
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“Reflections while driving in The Golden Sparrow” As the norm, I am driving in the Golden Sparrow and the song on my playlist begins to play “Healing Begins” by Tenth Avenue North. I like all kinds of music, especially singer songwriters. As I listen, I...read more
For A New Beginning In out-of-the-way places of the heart, Where your thoughts never think to wander, This beginning has been quietly forming, Waiting until you were ready to emerge. For a long time it has watched your desire, Feeling the emptiness growing...read more
The wisdom of emptiness may seem strange or even alarming to you to read especially if you struggle with an eating disorder or an addiction because it is emptiness that we feel and want to avoid that compels us to use these behaviors in the first place. This is not new information within the recovery world, and I want to be careful to avoid triggering the eating disorder or addiction voice by saying these words but there is wisdom in emptiness.